Arizona, Florida, Idaho, New York and North Carolina. Why the random states? Well, believe it or not, those are all the places my best friend has lived in the past nine years. You’re probably thinking it’s because she’s married to someone in the military, or she’s a broadcast journalist who’s had to move into increasingly larger markets. Sorry to burst your bubble, but neither of those scenarios are the case. The reason: she’s trying to find happiness.
Now, you could interpret this many ways: she’s trying to find love, she’s trying to find peace of mind in her day-to-day world, she’s trying to find herself. While I believe all of those are a tad true (depending on the state she lived in,) one thing is for sure: she needs to find what brightens her day. And no, I’m not simply talking about the blistering hot sunshine in Arizona or the gorgeous rays in Florida (after all, it IS the Sunshine State.) I’m talking about what will make the love of her life BE her life, from the time she steps out of bed onto her apartment floor to the time she gets back into that same bed.
Ironically, this is what my BFF (and I mean that literally… we’ve been stuck together like glue since pre-school,) posted on her Facebook wall today:
“Your journey has molded you for your greater good, and it was exactly what it needed to be. Don’t think that you’ve lost time. it took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now…. and now is right on time.”
Lots ofthings to think about within that one measly quote, right? But if you dissect it, it’s so true. And definitely a positive way to think about your life. There are so many things I’ve been through in my short 27 years of existence on this earth. My parents divorced when I was 12, my boyfriend in junior high passed away in a snowmobiling accident, I was in a few bad relationships (who wasn’t, right?,) and all kinds of things in between. It’s natural to think, “Why did all of this happen to me?,” or in the case of mentally taxing and hurtful relationships, “Why did I waste so much time?” But I challenge you to shift your paradigm of thinking for a second: what if those “things” hadn’t happened to you? Would you be who you are today? So driven? So sensitive to others around you? I truly believe experiences build character. And for those nasty, rotten people in your life, use them as an example of who not to be. And I promise you’ll be better for it.
“Now is right on time…” that’s something interesting to think about. So many people say “Timing is everything,” and in my experiences, that couldn’t be more true. But there are alot of people out there who wait for timing to happen. Hello, people! “Timing” is now! I know so many people that can’t make decisions. I’m not talking about menial decisions like what to eat for dinner. I’m talking about life-changing decisions, like what your next career move should be, or whether you should make your “dream career” a reality.
In Dan Miller’s 48 Days to the Work You Love, he says he gives big decisions a deadline: two weeks. Any big decision, from inception to finalization, should only take two weeks. This way, you stay focused and it keeps from these grandiose decisions to being pushed to the back burner. Because let’s face it: we all suppress decisions when they are too much for us to extrapolate and really delve into. So try it: two weeks, and deal or no deal.
So let’s recap: you should look at your experiences as character builders and never look at them as wastes of time or energy. But at the same time you should look at every passing second as a new opportunity to forge ahead in life, whether it be in your career or your relationships. That’s alot to digest at once, huh? Let’s try for baby steps. Give yourself time to marinate in these ideas, and remember: any progress is good progress.